Monthly Archives: December 2012

Over-plucked eye brows and New Years Eve Faux Pas

20121231-104549.jpgIn anticipation of the New Year, I decided it’s “go time.”

There are only 14 hours left in my time zone before a brand-spanking new year! In true procrastination fashion, this is the point I now feel extremely motivated to get everything done. Its the ultimate “last minute” and I’m not going to waste it.

Unfortunately, every thing I want to accomplish is getting tangled up in the mess that is Becky Rosty.

For example, my eyebrows were a little bushy… Wanting to step into 2013 looking less like a caterpillar, I took a tweezer to them. Of course, I over did it, and now I have these short thin frowns above each eye, hardly a complementary look for a New Year.

Also, I did a blitzkrieg on my house (i.e.: massive attack of cleaning; shouting at soap-scum in German, optional.) Somehow, the toilet isn’t flushing properly now and the tub has a funny gurgling sound coming from the drain. Don’t know how I managed that.

This whole week has been the same way: I burnt the egg casserole, over-mixed the coffee-cake batter, forgot the sugar in the scones, and used dry milk in the fudge instead of evaporated milk (sounds like the same thing right?).

I sat down to finish the last 2 chapters of my book and began to question every chapter I’d written before. My whole mentality was spiraling into chaos.

All-things-newI know God did not intend for me to end this year with perfection or absolute completion. He also didn’t provide another blessed year for me to end it in chaotic self-depreciation. I was blessedly reminded by a fellow blogger that “our hope is not in the new year, but in the One who makes all things new.” –Gracelaced.com

So, I am determined to enter the new year remembering what God has already accomplished, not what I haven’t. His work on the cross says, “It is finished.”

I will walk out of 2012 and into 2013 with peace…. because that is what He leaves me with.

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How about you? Do you have any New Years Blunders or unfinished projects? Comment below, and share how God gives you peace in the new season.

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Active Prayers for your Husband: Part 5

Its just a couple days till 2013! One way I have been preparing for the newness of the year is by cleaning. It was a little early to take down our tree, but I accidentally killed it (turns out a Christmas tree needs water every day.) So Shane and I dragged the forest out of our home and I have been busy picking pine needles out of my carpet and couch cushions. Never been much of a cleaner, but the sense of newness hanging in the air drives me to pick up a scrub brush. (Not to mention, my brother-in-law and his perfectly lovely girlfriend are coming to visit, and I’m sure they’d like to sit on a couch that didn’t resemble a porcupine.)

Cleaning is also a great reminder to pray. Read on for the final installment of 5 Active Prayers for your Husband:

Intercession while cleaning your house:

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This active prayer is more personal than directly related to your husband. I have this idea that a proper husband desires a clean and orderly home, with dinner on the table and pie in the oven. While this is not the reality for most women, home-making is an art that is often lost in the busyness of today. I had this great expectation that I would be a master home-maker by our 1st year anniversary….

That failed.

But I did learn a valuable lesson. My husband does not desire a warm and welcoming house and much as he longs for a warm and welcoming wife. He said to me once, “Becky, you are my home.” I realized that all the time I spent stressing about vacuums and windex, getting the enchiladas just right, and designing and decorating the home was coming from a good heart, but a misplaced direction.

Because if I burnt the enchiladas or left the vacuum out when my husband got home, I felt worthless. My self-esteem crashed and I spent the night pouting about my failure as a home-maker. What my husband truly desires was a wife who had a clean heart, not a clean house. He wants to come home to a warm embrace, not always a warm plate. I resolved to praying for my husband while cooking or cleaning, focusing God’s work within me, not just my work within the home.

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visit Darlene Schacht’s website for more great ideas: http://time-warp-wife.blogspot.ca

I pray for humility and warmth to welcome my husband with the heart of a Godly woman. I ask God to prepare my heart, my mind, and my body to be available to minister to my husband in the few evening hours I get to spend with him in the work week.

Preparing our home, and my heart, through prayer makes my husbands home-coming so much more pleasant for the both of us.

Try praying this for yourself, and your husband: “Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me away from Your presence And do not take Your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of Your salvation And sustain me with a willing spirit.” (Psalms 51:10-12)

Well, there you have it, 5 ways to actively (and hopefully with less distraction) pray for your husband. I hope that it renews your intimacy with the Lord and in your marriage.

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Active prayers for your husband: Parts 3-4

Yesterday I posted 2 ways that I am working toward actively praying for my husband. I believe there is power in prayer, and that talking to God draws you more intimately in both your relationship with Him, and with your husband. Unfortunately, I have this incurable syndrome known as highly distract….. sorry, I had to check facebook.

Anyway, here are a couple more ideas that keep me focused while I am praying for my husband.

Prayer Massages

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I’ve never been so lucky to pray for my husband. Back rubs, scalp massages, or full body massages are great ways to focus on specific areas to pray for your man. I like giving foot rubs and praying for him to have “feet sandaled with readiness for the gospel of peace.” (Ephesians 6:15) I pray the rest of armor of God for my husband while gently massaging the corresponding area (helmet of salvation=scalp massage, etc.)

I also pray protection over my husband. I rub his ears (it really does release tension) and pray for protection over what he hears. In a world of sarcasm, rumors, gossip, explicit songs on the radio in public places, cutting remarks, and false teaching, what my husband hears can deeply affect his resolve to be a man of God. I know the enemy is firing darts at my husband, so I pray protection over him. I do the same with his hands, feet, heart, and eyes (though I don’t recommend you massage your man’s eyes).

There are times I have prayed for 30 minutes or more, at which time my husband is usually drooling. You would think I’d be exhausted, but I can’t seem to stop praying. I thank God for the unique ways He created my husband. While I rub his shoulders, I praise God for making him into the strong leader of our family. While scratching his back, I thank God for giving him a strong back-bone and the courage to please God and not man.

Finally, my prayers end with the request for peace that lasts longer than a relaxing back massage: “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard [my husband’s] heart and mind in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7 NIV).

I always pray silently, but my husband knows I am praying for him. It might mean the world to your husband to hear your prayers for him, or he might just appreciate the quiet stillness of God’s work on his heart while you work on his muscles.

Prayer walks

images-1I love to walk, especially if it is nice outside. Our little puppy is 1 now, and very energetic, so I find myself taking more walks regardless of the weather. It is a good time to get away from the to-do list, the tv, and the “demands” of facebook. I enjoy praying as I walk; walking is a good metaphor for my relationship with God.

It also gives me more prayer material for my husband. I pray for him to have a walk that looks like these verses:

That my my husband would walk in wisdom, which brings safety and peace:

Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe. (Proverbs 28:26)
Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding… Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace. (Proverbs 3:13, 17)

I pray he might walk in obedience to the Lord, receiving the blessing of God and freedom in doing so:

Blessed are all who fear the Lord , who walk in obedience to him. (Psalm 128:1)
I will always obey your law, for ever and ever. I will walk about in freedom, for I have sought out your precepts. (Psalm 119:44, 45)
And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands. As you have heard from the beginning, his command is that you walk in love. (2 John 1:6)

And that my husband would enjoy an intimate, day by day, step by step, walk with our Savior:

Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. (Galatians 5:25)
I will walk among you and be your God, and you will be my people. (Leviticus 26:12)

Check back tomorrow for Idea #5 in actively praying for your husband…

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5 Active Prayers for your Husband

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The new year is just around the corner, which makes now a great time to get into a better habit of praying for my husband. I’ve noticed quite a few fantastic guides for “praying for your husband” on pinterest lately. Unfortunately, I am easily distracted from dutifully keeping up with these prayers.

So, I decided to incorporate a few ideas of my own to actively pray for my husband. Each activity keeps me engaged and focused; I truly treasure connecting with God in this way, and growing in my marriage at the same time! In sharing these ideas, I hope to encourage other young (or seasoned) wives to become consistent prayer warriors for their men.

So here they are, 5 Active Prayers for your Husband, Parts 1-2:

1. Work-out Prayer time:

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I don’t work out as consistently as I should, but when I do, I find myself praying. Most of the time I pray for the fat to be gone (to the glory of God, of course, ahem). Sometimes, I focus more deeply on praying for God to strengthen me according to His will.

Recently, I began praying the same thing for my husband. As my muscles start to burn, I am reminded to pray for God to strengthen my husband’s spiritual muscles… To give him resolve and courage to do what is right every day. I pray for his strength in our marriage and as the head of our family. I pray to accept God’s help and training when a trial comes, that it might strengthen our dependence on Him.

I put the weights down and ask the Lord to help my husband to let go of the burdens he was not meant to carry; I pray that my husband would trust completely in the Lord throughout his everyday routine.

At the gym, try praying this for your husband: to be “strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that [he] may have great endurance and patience.” (Colossians 1:11 NIV)

Text/Write him prayers

imagesI keep a journal with letters to my husband. He often writes back with small notes or texts. Now there are days where I write to God in that journal about my husband. Again, it gives me something tangible to do which helps me focus. Writing prayers also keeps record of how God has answered them and grown our marriage through the years!

I also try to text my husband at key points during the day, letting him know that his wife is interceding on his behalf. I try to pay attention to when he has meetings, deadlines, and busy days at work, and I pray for God to grant him favor within his career.

You could also try leaving notes in his car, leaving a prayer on his voicemail, or emailing your prayers: “Let the peace of Christ rule in [my husband’s] heart, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” (Colossians 3:15, 17 NIV)

Check back tomorrow for ideas #3-4 in actively praying for your husband…

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Shave with me Barbie, white elephant gift tutorial.

I am a glutton for White Elephant gift exchange parties. Over the years, I’ve done a terrible job, but this year… oh this was the year.

I found the idea on squidoo.com, just to give credit where credit is due.

Here it is: “Shave with me” Barbie!

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Cost: $2
Time: 5-10 minutes
Materials needed:
Barbie doll
Razor
Glue stick
Scissors
Paper, tape, printer, and computer for label (or you could hand write it)

So I snagged this cheap imitation Barbie and a pack of razors at the dollar store.

Rubbed glue all over her legs and armpits (the funniest part), trimmed the dolls hair and rolled her legs in it, then stuffed left hair under her arms.

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Re-twist-tied Barbie back into her box, inserted the razor, then added the label I made on my computer.

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It took the party-participants a second or two to get the gag, thinking it was just a Barbie; but the label explained it all. Some actually thought I got her from an awkward Barbie supply store (if only there was such a store.)

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We laughed so hard, I couldn’t breathe.

Hope this helps for any of you last minute gag-grifters. This one is a crowd pleaser and super cheap and easy.

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Buon Natale from the Rostys!

Merry Christmas from the home and life of the Rosty family. You may have already read our Christmas Newsletter, but now sit back and enjoy a glimpse into the season’s festivities-Shane and Becky Style.

Ugly Sweater Party at the Bridge: the adult inter-church small group that has encouraged us so much this year 🙂

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I feel it really expresses the “Buon Natale” feel of the year (we only wish we were Italian).

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With my “Shave with me Barbie” to give for the white elephant gift exchange, i think we cranked our participation up this year for Christmas craziness. (get the tutorial here.) It’s how we roll…… ugly sweater party: level 1,000.

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We had a cookie frosting party with our BCM students…. Here is my favorite:
(see more pics of BCM Christmas on Facebook or here)

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Got to love the Dr. Who obsession.

Shane was the tree-MASTER, as always….

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But Mr. Darcy showed up with some competition…. Tearing Shane (figuratively) and the tree (literally) limb from limb.

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Ok, Enough of the ridiculous….
I LOVE having people in our home… It may not be the cleanest, or most comfortable, but it is our joy to host many-a dinner, movie night, or simple get together. But, since many of our friends and family can never make it up to Sheridan, I thought I’d bring our home to you.

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Our “bouquet” from the branches cut from the bottom of the tree. Keeps the whole how’s smelling like our Big Horn Mountains.

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Pinterest gave me a few ideas this Christmas too, like this trimmed tree trunk ornament:

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I greatly lament the timing of pinterest when I see great ideas like this that usually have to do with “firsts”…. Like first Christmas tree, etc. Where were these ideas 3 years ago?! Well I’ve decided it’s never too late to start something new; after all, I’ve always been a fan of second (and third) chances!

Here is how we gave our wedding cake topper a second chance… Anyone else love s’mores as much as we do!?

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Our nativity we received from my parents our first Christmas:

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The nativity we bought in Africa this year:

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It is such a blessing to remember Christ’s birth and the wonderful memories of our journey with Him.

To the left of our Christmas Card display is my advent chain. I teach Sunday school for junior high and high school girl’s at our church; this month we are focusing on celebrating the coming of Christ. Early in December, we each wrote on a link one way to love Jesus every day leading up to December 25. Each day, I complete the task and add the link. By Christmas, we will have an extra decoration for Jesus’ Birthday 🙂

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We continue to pray for Sheridan College, students and staff this season…. Looking forward to all that God has for us to join him in next semester! (read more about our ministry’s Christmas adventures here.)

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MERRY CHRISTMAS! Thank you all for celebrating the season of Joy for all people through Christ Jesus with us… See you in 2013!

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Yours Sincerely in Faith,
Becky

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On Husbands and Hobbits: an Unexpected Journey

On Husbands and Hobbits: an Unexpected Journey

Today is my husband’s Birthday.

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In honor of this incredible man, born just a week short of Christmas Eve, I would like to bring light to another significant husband in the Bible:

Joseph.

Joseph was an ordinary man, a carpenter who daily worshipped God in his work. Like many people, Joseph may have had expectations for his life. But God had other plans for him.

In many ways, Joseph’s story reminds me of the plot in Peter Jackson’s retelling of The Hobbitl.

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Biblo also had plans to live a quiet simple life and enjoy the peace of his little home. Assisting a bunch of dwarves in a journey that would certainly change his life (not necessarily for the better), was not a welcome prospect. Yet eventually, we willingly stepped out his front door.

Joseph’s plan to get married, live a quiet life in a small town, and raise a simple family with Mary, was also slightly altered to say the least. God stepped in and asked Joseph to marry a woman whose reputation would always be stained with an out-of-wedlock pregnancy. God asked Joseph to bear his own reputation as the gullible man who fell for her trickery, claiming that the Holy Spirit conceived the child in her. In all wisdom and divine authority, God gave Joseph the opportunity to step out of the simple, and step into the reckless but redemptive plan of the most High God.

And Joseph did.

“And Joseph awoke from his sleep and did as the angel of the Lord commanded him, and took Mary as his wife, but kept her a virgin until she gave birth to a Son; and he called His name Jesus.” (Matthew 1:24-25)

Joseph was faithful to raise a Son who was not his own, probably at the scoffing of many. But that Son would one day save the world…. because Jesus was conceived by God, He did live the life of a man veiled in flesh, and He did die the death that I deserved so that I could live the (everlasting) life I couldn’t earn!

Joseph chose a painful obedience; knowing this baby would one day “save His people from their sins” through His own death and sacrifice would not have been easy. (Matthew 1:21) Nor could hearing the remarks of family and friends, the discouragement from co-workers, seeing the raised eye-brows from clients for his carpentry… yet Joseph obeyed.

Not only did he obey at the beginning, but Joseph obeyed through the whole process. He fathered Jesus; he taught Jesus how to use a hammer. Joseph did the day-to-day mysteries to honor God, provide for his wife, and raise God’s Son.

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As Gandalf says of Biblo: “I found it is the small everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keep the darkness at bay. Small acts of kindness and love.”

It is these men, and specifically these husbands, that make all the difference in the world and, as Gandalf says again, “gives me courage.”

My dad is also an obedient carpenter. His unexpected journey brought him a wife and 3 daughters and way too much estrogen in one home. But he maintained the day-by-day faithfulness to nurture us all into godly women.

My father-in-law is also a man who worked with his hands, as a roofer; he too obeyed God by raising a godly man who would one day be my husband. On this day, 25 years ago, they took up the responsibility as Joseph did, not knowing what raising Shane would be like, or if God would fashion this son into their hearts desire. Through the ups and downs, God does prove to be faithful….

Like his father and like mine, like Joseph and Jesus too (who spent 30 years also honoring God in the everyday activities), Shane is a man who is faithful in the little things. He loves me daily in ways I will never know. He is strong and courageous to share the love of God with others. He is honorable in his work. He provides for our family and I know he will make an amazing father someday (but not quite yet.)

Shane makes the mystery of Christ evident in his daily manner. He honors God daily in whatever he does… “in word or deed, [doing] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.” (Colossians 3:17)

I praise the Lord for Godly men (and hobbits) who work day in and day out, stay faithful to the Lord, love their wives, and provide for their families both physically and spiritually… no matter how unexpected the journey.

Please watch Mark Driscoll’s excellent sermon on this subject, from which God encouraged me greatly with these thoughts today.

watch the sermon here.

Read the outline here:

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The Rosty Christmas Newsletter

Shane and Becky’s Year of Adventures
2012

Greetings and Welcome, Family and Friends!

We are so moved to worship during this Christmas season, both to celebrate Christ’s birth and to thank God for the abundance of His blessings on us thus far.

Here is a recap of our blessed year of adventures in 2012.

Missions/Ministry Trips

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This year was the year of TRAVEL! We brought in the New Year singing praises to God in Atlanta, Georgia (of all places). Our former national ministry supporters, the North American Mission Board, provided plane tickets, hotel rooms, and Passion Conference tickets for Shane and I and two students. It was an incredible opportunity for Shane and I both to grow in the Lord along side our students.

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For Spring Break we took some BCM students down to Pearl, Mississippi to partner with a church working with ADORABLE inner city kids. VBS style ministry never gets old.

 

In June we went on the trip of a lifetime to Johannesburg, South Africa.

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Door of Hope is a baby-rescue home; we served as volunteers there, providing care, cuddles, and lots of diaper changes for the abandoned babies.

This baby ministry doesn’t get very many male volunteers, so Shane enjoyed a week of hard labor, fixing baby gates, installing heaters, and moving furniture.

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Becky was blessed to stay the whole month of June with her close friend Andy, and a former BCM student and now dear friend, Kylinn. The three fell in love 14 times over with each little boy and girl at the home.20121211-104713.jpg (Read more about our experience here.)

Glorieta, New Mexico was the next destination. Every year we travel with the Baptist Collegiate Ministries of Wyoming to this collegiate conference. This week provided some much needed refreshment, relaxation, and perspective for the coming semester of ministry.

As always, we have been active in traveling across our beautiful state of Wyoming, blessed to witness all that God is doing here. The BCM retreats, ministry conferences, and wonderful family times keep us on the road and loving it! Entertained by deep conversations and energetic laughter, our many road trips do more to grow our marriage than date nights.

Run…. Forest… Run

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Becky started running a bit this year. In the Spring she and Shane flew down to Florida with the Congers (Becky’s family) where Becky, her mom Theresa, and her sister Hannah, all competed in Disney’s Princess 1/2 Marathon. It was an exhausting but MAGICAL day of running through the parks for 13.1 miles or so…. (it seemed longer). The family bonding time was irreplaceable. The following verse rings truer now than ever before:

“Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” (Hebrews 12:1, 2)

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Becky also ran in the Dirty Dash in Billings with Andy, as well as in a few local races as well. (Never to win, just to finish.)

The every day stuff:

Ok, even though we collectively spent several months away from home this year, there were still plenty of experiences we enjoyed in our little home in Sheridan, WY. Shane and Becky began our 3rd year as directors of Baptist Collegiate Ministries at Sheridan College. God has been so good to us through this opportunity to lead college students to Christ.

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Our main focus remains to help students grow closer in their relationship with Christ, whether they have started that relationship yet or not. We do a weekly Bible study with about 20 students on Thursday nights on campus, and a weekly dinner with about 12 students at our house on Sunday nights. Throughout the year we also do events and ministries like the Classy Black Dress Event, Spring conference, missions trips, Fall Retreat, Rake n. Run, movie nights, and an epic Christmas party which we are really looking forward to.

After 2 and a half years, Shane has really expanded his expertise as a minister to officiating a wedding.

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In May, Shane officiated his sister marriage; Shane and Becky were also blessed to participate as the “wedding singers.”

In addition to directing a ministry, Shane is still working as a case-manager at NSI, a prep school for troubled youth. His job has provided him with great opportunities to pray for the young men he works with, and sometimes to share his hope in Christ with them. The company is very supportive of Shane’s ministry at the college and has been a blessing in their accommodation of the amount of time we spent out of Sheridan this year.

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Becky taught as a substitute teacher for much of the year, and enjoyed getting to know the grade school kids all over the city. In November she resigned from that position and is now focused on writing and doing ladies ministry in the community.

 

In other (big) news:

We got a puppy!

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Meet Mr. Darcy, our miniature Golden-doodle:

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This pup brings so much joy throughout each day. It is amazing how much he grown since we got him in February (Mr. Darcy will celebrate his first Birthday this Christmas).

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He has learned to sit, lay down, fetch, go to bed, do a Packer’s Touch down dance, and imitate an alligator. We are still working on having him do the laundry, but hey, there is always next year.

 

 

Also this year, we started building a house!

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Becky’s dad, along with both Shane and Becky’s families, have undertaken the process to help build a home for the Rostys.

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We are blessed to establish a firm foundation (both physically and spiritually) in Sheridan. We hope to move in by next Christmas, so we anticipate the coming summer to be many hours of house-raising. (Our pup thinks he can help too).

 

We also started a community worship band with several new friends in the Sheridan area.

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Representing several different churches and denominations, we come together weekly to worship God together. We have led worship and performed a few times at various events and have even written a few original songs.

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To God be the Glory….
It was a packed year. Overwhelmed with so many blessing from God, we cannot help but write about his goodness and extend our gratitude to Him. We also thank God for each one of you, and would love to hear how Jesus is working in your life.

We learn our lesson from Mr. Darcy this Christmas, to be Blessed (not stressed!) this season. Join us and enjoy each moment to the fullest….

We certainly love to!

Shane and Becky Rosty, and Mr. Darcy

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