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2013 Recap (and some Big news!)

Happy New Year!

Shane and I have a very special announcement:

The Rosty Family is adding two babies to their quiver.The Psalm referenced in this picture is a very accurate description of 2013 for the Rosty home:

Unless the Lord builds the house,
the builders labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
the guards stand watch in vain.
In vain you rise early
and stay up late,
toiling for food to eat—
for he grants sleep to those he loves.

Children are a heritage from the Lord,
offspring a reward from him.
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
are children born in one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
when they contend with their opponents in court.

From the house we are still building, to our ministry and growing family, the Psalm 127 truly gets it!

I apologize for my absence from this blog for the last few weeks. I have been a bit exhausted, both physically and mentally, from processing all that God is doing. But don’t worry! I have documented each step and I plan to catch you up on the Rosty life in the coming weeks.

For now, allow me to give a more detailed recap some important moments from 2013:


We had a splendid Spring semester as college ministry directors. Every year we are amazed at how God works through our amazing students to grow us and build this ministry. Our ministry trips to Laramie, WY; Ohio; Casper Mountain for youth camp; and Glorieta, New Mexico held incredible memories and opportunities to expand our understanding of God, people, and the world around us.



We continue to work on the house, bit by bit, this year. By the end of 2013, we had a roof, plumbing, electrical, and gas all done! We look forward to moving in the spring of 2014.


1014452_10200393978840826_724204849_nShane received a promotion at NSI, and spent much of the summer as a Team Leader. His role shifted from managing paperwork to being more involved with the students’ program day by day. With the job, God provided a new living situation, which we fell in love with! Our new home is surrounded by cows, lamas, turkeys for Mr. Darcy to chase, a flowing river, and lots of room to breathe. Through various circumstances, Shane’s job shifted back to case-management at the end of the summer. This re-shift came as a blessing, as Shane’s hours as a case-manager were much more conducive to our ministry (and marriage). Still, we are quite grateful the we get to continue living on the campus in our new home. I was able to convert the upstairs loft into my personal writing studio, where I have had plenty of creative space to write.


rosty summer 2013Camping, kayaking, moving, a new job, and enjoying sunshine with family and friends made our summer quite eventful. With a spacious house and a steady job, Shane and I realized it was time to start a family. As we sensed our hearts and the Holy Spirit leading us in that direction, we began to look into adoption and pregnancy. I embarked on a journey to deal with some deep-rooted allergies, get fit, and build healthy-habits. During this time we also registered with an adoption agency in hopes to get into a program to adopt from South Africa. At the time, such a program was not available. As I was pouring all of my time and efforts into adoption research, God tapped on my heart.


God prompted me to be faithful with what God already gave me. I have been working on a book: a Bible study curriculum to guide young women through the coming of age process, according to God’s Word. In obedience, I set everything else aside and wrote/edited my heart out! I sent in a book proposal to a publisher on October 2, 2013.



It just so happened that 6 days later, an adoption program to South Africa opened up (on October 8th). Our heavenly Father NEVER ceases to amaze me. He called me to obedience, not just to honor Him with the vision He gave me for the book, but also to work out His perfect timing for adoption. We applied, and were the 10th family (out of 10 available spots) to get into the program. Again, God reminded us of His sovereignty. I had no idea how he was going to work all this out.

Through the whole month of October, my mantra was Ecclesiastes 3:11: He will make everything beautiful in it’s time. So many moments confirmed that this was God’s plan for us. Got brought new and old friendships with people from all over South Africa, who are all praying for the day we finally get to pick up our “World Traveler.” Things were falling into place!

In the coming weeks we gleefully slaved over paperwork, surprised at how fast the process was going. We received training that proved difficult and emotional, but so good for us. Jesus was sifting us to become parents in His likeness. Then on November 18 and 19, we had our home inspection and adoption interviews. Again, Shane and I were shocked, but so blessed, at how quickly God was working out the process to adopt.


All this time, we were unaware of what God was also doing inside me. Shane and I weren’t expecting any fertility issues, but we did expect it to take a while for my body to get on board with the idea. On Thursday, November 21, just 2 days after we completed our home study interviews, I took a pregnancy test. Never in my life have I been more surprised to see those double lines!


1558645_10151809577017283_1013917072_nAfter getting over the initial shock of it all, I wanted to get sonograms to use as Christmas presents for our parents. On Thursday, December 12 we received an ultrasound at Legacy Pregnancy Center in Sheridan. Turns out, we got more than we expected.

I jokingly asked the technician, “there’s just one baby right?” And she replied, “well this is suspicious,” as she circled the arrow around a spot next to the baby, “but I think it’s just your ovary.”

5 minutes later, she transitioned from an abdominal (on the belly) to a transvaginal ultrasound… and her suspicions were confirmed. “Oh, there’s another baby in there.”

“What!?” Shane and I couldn’t believe it. I will never forget laying on the exam table, throwing my hand on my forehead and staring at the screen while the tears started coming. Tears of joy, wonder, confusion and excitement. I also will never forget how Kathryn, another Legacy employee in the room, burst out laughing and clapping for us.

I went home and researched everything I could about twin pregnancies. It took me hours to catch my breath and eat again (which was hard enough as it is). We went to dinner with my dad that night, and played it completely cool. At this point, no one even knew we were pregnant. My dad said, “your little sister is gonna get married and have kids before you two do.”

Shane resisted the opportunity to say, “Oh really?”

I am glad we waited, because our families’ reactions when we told them was sincerely priceless (more on that event later).

Praising God:

The next day, we had the privilege of performing a song for the Legacy Pregnancy Resource Center Christmas Concert. (Seriously, if you have a PRC in your community, please show your support. They mean so much to the men and women with unplanned [and sometimes planned but surprising-anyway] pregnancies.) That night, our song “Rejoice” by Dustin Krensrue, became our anthem for this wonderful season. The lyrics say:

For the one who holds the heavens and commands the stars above, is the God who bends to bless us with an unrelenting love.

God has bent to give us a double portion of His grace this year. We appreciate your prayers for wisdom and relentless pursuit of God’s will as we expect a beautiful family!

Blessings to your 2014. May it be as blessed as ever!


Stay tuned for weekly updates on my baby-bump, God’s faithfulness through our family-building process, and as always, more Bible Study and relationship tips for day-to-day thriving!

Pictures of Selfless Love for a (future) Mama: My journey to celebrating both pregnancy and adoption.



I think I might be finally getting this whole “home-made” kid thing. “Home-made” meaning, having a baby (vs. adoption).

It has been a long journey of confusion, fear, selfishness, doubt, excitement, and waiting… of course the waiting. And no-this is not a pregnancy announcement. I simply wish to be transparent with how God is shaping my heart and mind for His glory. (Sorry if I got your hopes up; not just yet.)

So here it is: Pictures of Selfless Love for a (future) Mama, Part 1: Adoption.

God has blessed me with a heavy heart for the orphan. I have longed to be a part of adoption for a very long time. I still look forward to the day God leads Shane and I to step in that direction.

I have always seen adoption as an exceptional picture of God’s unconditional love for humanity. The Bible refers to adoption several times as an example of how God invites us into His family (Galatians 4, Ephesians 1, Romans 8).

I am overwhelmed with the thought: that God would take in this dirty, homeless child and make me His daughter. Washing me clean of all the stains of broken relationship, He made me His own; giving me full inheritance to His kingdom, He invited me to take part in the family business. Complete and whole, I have been given a new name in Christ, declared worthy and accepted.

I can’t wait to offer that to a child someday! I pray that the day Shane and I adopt a child will be celebrated as a divine picture of God’s love.

But…. there is another picture of love that I have been ignoring. Love is not just displayed in adoption, but also in creation.

I will admit something here: I have been turned off to pregnancy and having a “baby of my own” for a long time. My disposition to this miraculous process has various roots:

First, my own sinful rebellion. Always wanting to “take the path less traveled,” I saw having a “home-made baby” as following the crowd. It sounds ridiculous (it is), and I know that this reason is not God-honoring. I confess my inclination to deviate from the “norm” (even a God-honoring norm) is sinful and fleshly.

I also experience a plethora of fears in this area. God has used many wonderful mothers (who make a lot of graceful mistakes) to help me trust God instead of give in to fear. This blog post, from Women Living Well, was particularly helpful.

After repenting from my prideful attitude and my fear, I realized I still felt hung up on the idea. Almost every argument in the favor of having a baby still sounded so selfish to me:

“Don’t you want to have kids that look like you?”

“Don’t you want to feel what its like to be pregnant?”

“Don’t you want to raise kids with your traits and talents?”

“Having your own children is better than adoption, because you have control from the beginning how they are raised.”

Again, God has blessed me with an overwhelmed heart for adoption. I see the need of a thousand children all over the world who aren’t privileged with parents who believed (or could fulfill) the above comments.

In the face of such a need, each question sounded very self-serving. All about me: what I see, feel, experience, or have an easier time with. After repenting from my original prideful reason for preferring adoption over pregnancy, I wanted to steer far away from the idea of pregnancy again, just to avoid a new motive of pride and selfishness.

I came “to terms” with the idea of having a baby, knowing it would be glorifying to how God made my body, and honoring to my husband, who wouldn’t mind have babies with me (what an amazing guy!).

But I was still wrestling with the perspective of all those precious babies already waiting for a home. Sure, God says that children are a blessing; but that includes HIS babies, orphaned out there somewhere, waiting for someone to be the tangible display of our Father’s selfless love.

My intentions are not to belittle anyone’s desire to have a baby. I love my friends and family (and my parents) for having that desire! I am simply trying to be brave by communicating my journey in this area. It has been a difficult road to be open about my misgivings and doubts about pregnancy vs. adoption, without sensing negative criticism from others.

Also, I do not mean to lessen the importance of womanhood or “be fruitful and multiply.” For whatever reason, my perspective has just been in favor of adoption.

Till now…

…Stay tuned for my conclusion on having a “home-made” baby…

*Does anyone else LOVE the photograph above? Head over to the blog, Adding a Burden,  to read about her beautiful story of adoption.

The Ultimate DIY Project: Building God’s House

My husband and I have been extra-blessed with the opportunity to build our own home.


Even more exciting is how our family has come around us to build it together, including my parents and my husband’s parents. It is the ultimate DIY project, and the whole family is involved.

I am constantly impressed with the number of details involved in building a house. Last Fall, I encountered the small detail of setting up a fence for our yard. The timing felt odd, but for various reasons, we built our fence before the walls of our house were even in place.

Our first task: digging the holes for the fence posts. Working side by side with my mom, we started breaking up the rock-dirt. That’s right, not rock-hard-dirt, just rock-dirt. Using a 40 lb. digging bar, we pounded the ground 4 dozen times, then scooped out the broken pieces with our hands. Each round removed maybe 1/4 inch from the hole-to-be.

Together, we focused for hours on one hole. Exhausted, sweating, and finger muscles throbbing, we peered down the intimidating row of future holes. There, on the opposite end, was my super-hero father-in-law, Steve, hulk-smashing each hole in a matter of minutes.

A feeling of relief and wonder, tinged with a little jealous frustration, raced through our tired bones. Realizing how useless our efforts were in comparison to Steve, we stepped out of the way. “Surely we could be more helpful somewhere else,” we thought. But our boss (which happens to be my dad) quickly reminded us to keep digging.

How silly we felt, how pathetic. But we persevered, finishing 1 and 1/2 holes by the day’s end. Steve finished 10 and 1/2.

This story is a perfect reflection of ministry. Every person who has entered into God’s family is a part of the epic family project of building a house: God’s house. We know, of course, that “unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.” (Psalm 127:1) But we also know that each of God’s children are invited to participate. Whether by leading through a paid ministry position, raising godly children, or reaching out to co-workers: we all have a detail to focus on.

Sometimes though, we see someone else making incredible progress in their ministry. These are the ones who rarely get drained by people; the Christians who have the perfect words to say every time.

We all know the guy who can naturally bend a conversation to focus on God’s love and plan of redemption for humanity. He hosts one Bible-study over coffee, and before you know it, 10 and 1/2 people have committed their life to Christ.

In comparison, you wonder why you keep fumbling over the “Romans’ Road” with your neighbor and his poodle. At a certain point, you just want to invite Mr. Incredible over to the neighbor’s and so he can gently Hulk-smash them into eternal life with Jesus.

I so often forget that God called me to pray for this person. God placed me, specifically, in a home next to theirs. Our Dad never asked us to be amazing, He just asked us to be faithful. To keep sweating over that one hole–that one empty soul that needs Jesus, no matter how hard the heart. He chooses to use the weak, the sweating, the tired and intimidated, to make a difference. “For it is God who is working in you, enabling you both to desire and to work out His good purpose.” (Philippians 2:13 HCSB)

It’s a family DIY project, and each family member gets to be a part of building this house.


Active prayers for your husband: Parts 3-4

Yesterday I posted 2 ways that I am working toward actively praying for my husband. I believe there is power in prayer, and that talking to God draws you more intimately in both your relationship with Him, and with your husband. Unfortunately, I have this incurable syndrome known as highly distract….. sorry, I had to check facebook.

Anyway, here are a couple more ideas that keep me focused while I am praying for my husband.

Prayer Massages


I’ve never been so lucky to pray for my husband. Back rubs, scalp massages, or full body massages are great ways to focus on specific areas to pray for your man. I like giving foot rubs and praying for him to have “feet sandaled with readiness for the gospel of peace.” (Ephesians 6:15) I pray the rest of armor of God for my husband while gently massaging the corresponding area (helmet of salvation=scalp massage, etc.)

I also pray protection over my husband. I rub his ears (it really does release tension) and pray for protection over what he hears. In a world of sarcasm, rumors, gossip, explicit songs on the radio in public places, cutting remarks, and false teaching, what my husband hears can deeply affect his resolve to be a man of God. I know the enemy is firing darts at my husband, so I pray protection over him. I do the same with his hands, feet, heart, and eyes (though I don’t recommend you massage your man’s eyes).

There are times I have prayed for 30 minutes or more, at which time my husband is usually drooling. You would think I’d be exhausted, but I can’t seem to stop praying. I thank God for the unique ways He created my husband. While I rub his shoulders, I praise God for making him into the strong leader of our family. While scratching his back, I thank God for giving him a strong back-bone and the courage to please God and not man.

Finally, my prayers end with the request for peace that lasts longer than a relaxing back massage: “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard [my husband’s] heart and mind in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7 NIV).

I always pray silently, but my husband knows I am praying for him. It might mean the world to your husband to hear your prayers for him, or he might just appreciate the quiet stillness of God’s work on his heart while you work on his muscles.

Prayer walks

images-1I love to walk, especially if it is nice outside. Our little puppy is 1 now, and very energetic, so I find myself taking more walks regardless of the weather. It is a good time to get away from the to-do list, the tv, and the “demands” of facebook. I enjoy praying as I walk; walking is a good metaphor for my relationship with God.

It also gives me more prayer material for my husband. I pray for him to have a walk that looks like these verses:

That my my husband would walk in wisdom, which brings safety and peace:

Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe. (Proverbs 28:26)
Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding… Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace. (Proverbs 3:13, 17)

I pray he might walk in obedience to the Lord, receiving the blessing of God and freedom in doing so:

Blessed are all who fear the Lord , who walk in obedience to him. (Psalm 128:1)
I will always obey your law, for ever and ever. I will walk about in freedom, for I have sought out your precepts. (Psalm 119:44, 45)
And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands. As you have heard from the beginning, his command is that you walk in love. (2 John 1:6)

And that my husband would enjoy an intimate, day by day, step by step, walk with our Savior:

Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. (Galatians 5:25)
I will walk among you and be your God, and you will be my people. (Leviticus 26:12)

Check back tomorrow for Idea #5 in actively praying for your husband…

The Rosty Christmas Newsletter

Shane and Becky’s Year of Adventures

Greetings and Welcome, Family and Friends!

We are so moved to worship during this Christmas season, both to celebrate Christ’s birth and to thank God for the abundance of His blessings on us thus far.

Here is a recap of our blessed year of adventures in 2012.

Missions/Ministry Trips

This year was the year of TRAVEL! We brought in the New Year singing praises to God in Atlanta, Georgia (of all places). Our former national ministry supporters, the North American Mission Board, provided plane tickets, hotel rooms, and Passion Conference tickets for Shane and I and two students. It was an incredible opportunity for Shane and I both to grow in the Lord along side our students.



For Spring Break we took some BCM students down to Pearl, Mississippi to partner with a church working with ADORABLE inner city kids. VBS style ministry never gets old.


In June we went on the trip of a lifetime to Johannesburg, South Africa.



Door of Hope is a baby-rescue home; we served as volunteers there, providing care, cuddles, and lots of diaper changes for the abandoned babies.

This baby ministry doesn’t get very many male volunteers, so Shane enjoyed a week of hard labor, fixing baby gates, installing heaters, and moving furniture.



Becky was blessed to stay the whole month of June with her close friend Andy, and a former BCM student and now dear friend, Kylinn. The three fell in love 14 times over with each little boy and girl at the home.20121211-104713.jpg (Read more about our experience here.)

Glorieta, New Mexico was the next destination. Every year we travel with the Baptist Collegiate Ministries of Wyoming to this collegiate conference. This week provided some much needed refreshment, relaxation, and perspective for the coming semester of ministry.

As always, we have been active in traveling across our beautiful state of Wyoming, blessed to witness all that God is doing here. The BCM retreats, ministry conferences, and wonderful family times keep us on the road and loving it! Entertained by deep conversations and energetic laughter, our many road trips do more to grow our marriage than date nights.

Run…. Forest… Run


Becky started running a bit this year. In the Spring she and Shane flew down to Florida with the Congers (Becky’s family) where Becky, her mom Theresa, and her sister Hannah, all competed in Disney’s Princess 1/2 Marathon. It was an exhausting but MAGICAL day of running through the parks for 13.1 miles or so…. (it seemed longer). The family bonding time was irreplaceable. The following verse rings truer now than ever before:

“Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” (Hebrews 12:1, 2)



Becky also ran in the Dirty Dash in Billings with Andy, as well as in a few local races as well. (Never to win, just to finish.)

The every day stuff:

Ok, even though we collectively spent several months away from home this year, there were still plenty of experiences we enjoyed in our little home in Sheridan, WY. Shane and Becky began our 3rd year as directors of Baptist Collegiate Ministries at Sheridan College. God has been so good to us through this opportunity to lead college students to Christ.



Our main focus remains to help students grow closer in their relationship with Christ, whether they have started that relationship yet or not. We do a weekly Bible study with about 20 students on Thursday nights on campus, and a weekly dinner with about 12 students at our house on Sunday nights. Throughout the year we also do events and ministries like the Classy Black Dress Event, Spring conference, missions trips, Fall Retreat, Rake n. Run, movie nights, and an epic Christmas party which we are really looking forward to.

After 2 and a half years, Shane has really expanded his expertise as a minister to officiating a wedding.



In May, Shane officiated his sister marriage; Shane and Becky were also blessed to participate as the “wedding singers.”

In addition to directing a ministry, Shane is still working as a case-manager at NSI, a prep school for troubled youth. His job has provided him with great opportunities to pray for the young men he works with, and sometimes to share his hope in Christ with them. The company is very supportive of Shane’s ministry at the college and has been a blessing in their accommodation of the amount of time we spent out of Sheridan this year.


Becky taught as a substitute teacher for much of the year, and enjoyed getting to know the grade school kids all over the city. In November she resigned from that position and is now focused on writing and doing ladies ministry in the community.


In other (big) news:

We got a puppy!


Meet Mr. Darcy, our miniature Golden-doodle:


This pup brings so much joy throughout each day. It is amazing how much he grown since we got him in February (Mr. Darcy will celebrate his first Birthday this Christmas).




He has learned to sit, lay down, fetch, go to bed, do a Packer’s Touch down dance, and imitate an alligator. We are still working on having him do the laundry, but hey, there is always next year.



Also this year, we started building a house!


Becky’s dad, along with both Shane and Becky’s families, have undertaken the process to help build a home for the Rostys.


We are blessed to establish a firm foundation (both physically and spiritually) in Sheridan. We hope to move in by next Christmas, so we anticipate the coming summer to be many hours of house-raising. (Our pup thinks he can help too).


We also started a community worship band with several new friends in the Sheridan area.


Representing several different churches and denominations, we come together weekly to worship God together. We have led worship and performed a few times at various events and have even written a few original songs.



To God be the Glory….
It was a packed year. Overwhelmed with so many blessing from God, we cannot help but write about his goodness and extend our gratitude to Him. We also thank God for each one of you, and would love to hear how Jesus is working in your life.

We learn our lesson from Mr. Darcy this Christmas, to be Blessed (not stressed!) this season. Join us and enjoy each moment to the fullest….

We certainly love to!

Shane and Becky Rosty, and Mr. Darcy